10 Ways You Can Demonstrate Healthy Boundaries in Your Life

Having Healthy Boundaries, knowing your Standards AND LIVING BY THEM is not only liberating but it fosters a renewed self-respect that you can't obtain from anyone or anything outside of yourself! And Here's what that looks like in real life....

1. Say NO when You really want or need to, no explanation needed. Just a healthy and polite "No, Thank You."

2. Stand in Your Personal Truth by listening to others even when they're being unkind; then when things are not heated, speak your truth about the topic and the exchange; let that person know that no matter what the situation/problem is between the two of you, that you know your worth and that you expect to be respected.

3. Take Your Time while building your relationships. Being Vulnerable around others takes time and its okay in new and growing relationships to check in with each other and mutually create a safe space to share deep personal thoughts and feelings.

4. State Your Boundaries Regarding topics or behaviors that cause you to feel uncomfortable or that cross a line for you personally. You can tell that person "Please do not do that, because it makes me feel uncomfortable."

or "I do not like it when you.. "( be specific by stating the exact word or cite the behavior).

5. Ask for space or "ME" time. It's very healthy for you to personally take space away from everyone and everything to reflect, rest and take the time you need to renew yourself. I recommend planning it just like any other appointments in your busy life. The people in your life will thank you for doing this!

6. Asking for help when you need it and accepting it when it’s offered because when you do this you're creating an unconditionally loving balance in all of your relationships; a beautiful exchange of giving and receiving.

7. Intentionally discover and explore your own identity separate from your relationships. Spend time developing and honoring your own unique passions, opinions, interests and intellect. You can celebrate who you are and be your own person outside of your relationships with others.

8. Discern the difference between your feelings and the feelings of others and be clear with both yourself and with others about the feelings you're experiencing. There are no rules about how one should feel or how they should express their feelings and emotions.

9. Know your personal boundaries and refuse to accept blame from others when there are conflicts and do not take on the responsibilities of others when things do not go as expected. The actions of others are not yours to resolve. You can certainly acknowledge the pain another person is experiencing or empathize with their sadness or anger.

10. Always Expect Respect in every one of your relationships at home, at work and in public.

You absolutely deserve to experience unconditionally loving communication and unlimited kindness. Whenever you're experiencing the contrary you can remove yourself from that person or situation and you can calmly state "I do not deserve to be spoken to this way" or "I will not tolerate your tone."

Always be gentle and speak softly from a place of unconditional love when you express the truth about your boundaries and standards.

BE TRUE TO YOU, IN EVERY MINUTE, THRU EVERY TASK And IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE! Because YOU MATTER!!

As Always I am Wishing You Wellness,

Raeka